Extra material regarding the book The Compassionate Leader

On this page you will find the tools, exercises and other resources that are mentioned in the book The Compassionate Leader.

This is an overview:

  • Exercise to find secure bases.
  • The visual of the D.U.E.T. process.
  • The Compassion Technique video.
  • Instructions of the Compassion Technique in PDF.
  • A link to the ABCs of De-stressing video.
  • Instructions of the Compassion Quadrants in PDF.
  • Examples of Compassion Quadrants.
  • Lists with emotions and needs for the four-step structure of Compassionate Communication.

Exercise to find secure bases

You can find the instructions on how to find your secure bases in this document.

The visual of the D.U.E.T. process

You can download the one page PDF of the D.U.E.T. process.

The Compassion Technique video

This is the link to the free Compassion Technique video.

Instructions of the Compassion Technique

For your convenience you can download the instructions for the Compassion Technique in PDF like in the book: 4 rounds with a fixed sequence of questions (in other words without using cards with questions).

Instructions to watch the free video of the ABC of Destressing

  • Go to the page of the Workshop on Destressing on the website of Live the Connection.
  • Click button “Watch online”.
  • Click “Online workshop on destressing”.
  • Click button “Follow online”.

Instructions of the Compassion Quadrants

For your convenience are these the instructions for the Compassion Quadrants from the book.

Examples of Compassion Quadrants

For your inspiration: you can download a list with examples of Compassion Quadrants.

They are alphabetically sorted on the fourth column Allergy since that is the easiest entry point.

Lists with emotions and needs for the four-step structure of Compassionate Communication

For your inspiration: you can download a list with emotions and needs.

The list with emotions is split into two parts

  • List with emotions when your needs are fulfilled.
  • List with emotions when your needs are not fulfilled.