Tension is seen by human beings as negative and undesirable. The most used strategy is to avoid it or push it away. But that doesn’t eliminate the root of the tension, causing that tension to reappear in one way or another.
The tension then usually finds a way out when in contact with other people. These are a few examples of how tension is released in the workplace:
- Getting rid of tension:
- Blaming someone else (regarding this tension).
- Complaining or gossiping.
- Yelling or getting angry.
- Going in control mode in order to manage the tension:
- Micro management: check the details of other people’s work.
- Enforce one’s own way of working to others.
- Suppress the tension or take the blame on one self (what often leads to physical or mental complaints like back aches, headaches, burnout, etc.)
The result is that the connection with others is disrupted. Sometimes this happens in a very clear way. However, most of the times it is very subtle. Usually, we are not aware of this, but what happens next is that others react in a negative way and tensions, arguments or conflicts emerge.
And since we are not aware of this process, we don’t have a clue where this comes from and we get a negative feeling about the other person!
This leads to:
- Decrease in productivity, efficiency and effectivity.
- Decrease in happiness and well-being at work (and at home as well).
- Missing out on opportunities that are presented by (positive) tensions.
The result are extra tensions which increase the risk of a further negative spiral.
What is needed to transform these tensions and discover new ideas and sustainable solutions, is a calm, compassionate attitude, together with the realization that the tension with another person usually points to another, underlying tension. However, that is not so easy when you are in the middle of the storm.
Hence the two day Compassionate Self Leadership workshop that offers the insights, tips, tools and techniques to change this.
During the workshop we use the framework of the D.U.E.T. method and apply the appropriate tools and techniques for each step:
- Detect and face the tension.
- Understand and solve the tension.
- Embrace and transform the root of the tension.
- Take action.
The tools and techniques are designed to support the participants to do most of the work without interacting with the people with whom they experienced tension (this is only an option in the last step). This ensures that the stress that is related to contact with them is not present, making it easier to explore the underlying motives and causes.
Contact us to organize this workshop for your organization.