The Compassion Technique2018-12-30T15:27:44+01:00

Workshop – The Compassion Technique©

When people work together, tensions show up. Sometimes it is about tensions between people. In other cases, tensions are related to practical issues, but when they are not dealt with, they mutate to interpersonal tensions as well.

The result is that working together becomes more difficult, that meetings and conversations are stressful and take much longer than needed and that goals are not achieved.

That’s why nobody likes tensions. But actually, tensions are a good thing. They are pointers to where progress can be made. However most of the time tensions are ignored, minimized or cut out. As a result the opportunities they point to, remain undetected as well.

An excellent first step is to transform the interpersonal tensions. As a result there is more space for the opportunities to show themselves.

And that is where the Compassion Technique comes in.

What is the Compassion Technique©?

The Compassion Technique is a versatile method to transform interpersonal tensions and to increase team performance.

It also brings people into a more compassionate state towards others and themselves.

Situations in which to use the Compassion Technique©

Which situations are suited to use the Compassion Technique?

The general answer is: you can use the Compassion Technique for any situation where you feel a disbalance in a relationship or feel stress when you are in contact with other people.

A second kind of situation is when you want to get full access to your brain capacity to come up with new ideas or when you want to be more ready to deal with unexpected situations.

You can use the Compassion Technique to prepare beforehand or when you look back afterwards (so you can deal with the situation in a different way the next time it occurs).


Let’s look at a few general examples of situations first and then address some more specific ones.

These are some examples of situations within your organization. You can use the Compassion Technique before or after:

  • Communicating with co-workers.
  • Giving a presentation for co-workers.
  • Having a conversation and specifically when the situation can be more stressful like candidate interviews, exit talks, performance reviews or when someone is underperforming or having personal issues.
  • Coaching someone (or being coached).
  • Leading or participating in a board or team meeting.
  • Facilitating or participating in a brainstorming meeting.
  • Facilitating or participating in a governance meeting for self-managing teams.

These are some examples of situations outside your organization. You can use the Compassion Technique before or after:

  • Having a conversation with a customer as part of the sales process or when problem solving in the customer service department.
  • Giving a presentation for customers or at a conference.
  • Being interviewed in the press.
  • Negotiating with suppliers, customers, partners, unions or the government.
  • Facilitating any one-on-one or group session.

Specific Examples

Here are some examples of specific situations in which the Compassion Technique can be beneficial in the workplace. These are cases that can apply to yourself or to someone from your team.

Your team member has a heated argument with a colleague about whose responsibility it is to communicate the negative results to a customer.

You don’t feel appreciated by the CEO or your manager for the work you do.

Your team member cringes when the smallest bit of criticism is voiced by the CEO, by you or by another team member.

You feel hurt when the CEO or president of the board only reads the first page of the 50 page report you worked so hard on.

Your team member feels small and vulnerable in a team meeting, especially when one specific person talks or is present.

You feel pressured by a customer to lower your price below a healthy margin.

Your team member is lazy, making you the one who has to do everything and work late.

You need to go into a meeting or brainstorm session with someone you had arguments with in the past or with whom you feel a lot of tension.

Your team member feels sad and afraid because they are bullied by a co-worker.

You feel frustrated because a supplier doesn’t listen to your requests to modify their product specifications.

Your team member is being screamed at by an unsatisfied customer.

You get angry because you are put on hold for more than 20 minutes when calling a help desk.


The available formats are:

  • Workshop to learn to apply the Compassion Technique as an individual.
  • Workshop to learn how to facilitate the Compassion Technique with other people. Ideal for internal/external coaches, managers, HR business partners, facilitators, trainers and therapists.

Organize a workshop

Contact us if you want to organize a workshop to learn how to apply the Compassion Technique in your organization.