Raise the Vibe

Group, Duo or Individual Program

Leaders, coaches and facilitators of teams and organizations face challenging times. On the one hand there is the expectation of improved results, on the other hand more attention to the humane side of work (like a meaningful job in a stimulating environment).

Lots of company owners, managers, (agile) coaches, product owners, scrum masters, chapter/tribe/squad leads and other facilitators ended up in a leadership or coaching role without a specific training or guidance.

When they are faced with personal and interpersonal tensions they often don’t know how to deal with them and support others in an optimal way.

These are a few examples that show up when changes occur, especially in agile or self-organizing environments:

  • Employees revert to old patterns, old ways of working and old ways of taking decisions.
  • There is little experience with facilitating and coaching teams regarding self-organization and address maturity.
  • Employees have a hard time with self-organization or taking up more responsibilities.
  • There is a need for more communication, but employees don’t know how to do this in the right way. Often they fall in extremes: become silent or dominant. In both cases the connection that is necessary for constructive solutions is absent.
  • Employees are confronted with themselves and get stressed about it.
  • Old structures are still in play like old ways of reporting from team members to the manager or vice versa. Often both parties don’t know how to change this pattern or to discuss it in a proper way.

The Raise the Vibe programs provide the insights, tools and techniques to deal with these situations. And much more.

For Whom

The Raise the Vibe programs are for everyone who leads or facilitates other people.

This usually means one of these roles:

  • Leaders:
    • CEO’s / Business Owners
    • Change/Transformation Managers
    • Product Owners
    • Managers
  • Facilitators:
    • Coaches
    • Agile Coaches
    • Scrum Masters
    • Chapter Leads and Coaches
    • Happiness Officers
    • HR Business Partners
    • Project Managers

What is Overlooked

Two of the most overlooked reasons why individuals, teams and organizations are not as successful as they could be, are:

  • The inability to process tensions in the right way.
  • The vibe of a team.

Let’s have a brief look at them.

Tensions

There are three kinds of tensions:

  • Practical or process: for example, the order and shipping processes are not optimally aligned, data input takes a long time since it is done manually, meetings take forever because there is no structured approach, co-workers get sick a lot because of open doors or malfunctioning air-conditioning systems, etc.
  • Personal: for example, I don’t feel able to do what is expected of me, I have low self-esteem, I feel resistance to change, I hate public speaking, etc.
  • Interpersonal: for example, I don’t get along with a colleague, manager, customer, supplier; have fights with them or feel uncomfortable in their company, etc.

The less people are able to properly deal with tension, the lower the vibe they are in. And the harder it is to successfully work together.

Most people haven’t learned how to solve personal or interpersonal tensions. That’s why they pretend those tensions are not present. Or they vent these tensions in way that hurts others or pulls down their own self-esteem.

Practical tensions are also dealt with in a way that causes extra tension (often at another level). For example:

  • By blaming a colleague from the IT department when the Internet is down, an interpersonal tension is created.
  • By blindly following those that have the loudest voice, a solution is chosen that costs more time than necessary (what creates a practical tension because other tasks or projects are postponed).

Vibes

There are four vibes:

  • Negative: people complain, blame others and are defensive.
  • Neutral: the job gets done, but not much more.
  • Positive: people are enthusiastic and work towards goals, but the full potential is not reached yet.
  • Inspiring: there is a contagious excitement and focus on both results and well-being.

If people are not at least in the positive vibe, they are not ready to embrace change (yet) and really commit to the project or new way of working like agile or self-organizing teams.

When a change project is implemented or there is a transition to agile or self-organizing teams, two things usually happen:

  • The current reality is magnified because extra tensions are added to the current situation.
  • Since most people don’t know how to adequately deal with tensions, the vibe goes down and it becomes even harder to implement the change.

Vibes, Tensions and Agile/Self-Organizing Teams

Real agile or self-organizing teams are situated in the inspiring vibe. However, the majority of the working population resides in the neutral vibe.

People in the neutral vibe are more concerned about protecting themselves than with committing themselves to new projects, initiatives or ways of working. That is the most important reason why initiatives regarding agile or self-organizing teams fail.

The solution is to help them raise their vibe. Preferably up front, but at least along the way.

This can be done by using current moments of tension.

Solution: Compassionate Leadership

Compassionate Leadership is about removing all the barriers that are in the way of an effective, efficient and fulfilling way of working. And in a way that no new barriers or tensions are created.

The definition of Compassionate Leadership is:

“The ability to take yourself, individuals, teams and organizations
to a higher level of performance and well-being (= a higher vibe)
in a safe and stimulating way when tensions occur.”

So, it is not a new style of leadership that replaces other styles, but a dimension that is added. The leadership style that is most open for it, is “servant leadership”. By the way, this is the style that is pursued in most agile and self-organizing teams.

On a practical level there are two “ingredients” of Compassionate Leadership:

  • A practical toolkit with short and powerful techniques and tools to transform different kinds of tension (the D.U.E.T. model).
  • Being able to facilitate these moments of tension in a way (= a mindset and an attitude) that helps to solve tension instead of creating a new one. We call this the compassionate attitude.

Ingredient 1: D.U.E.T. Process

The four-step D.U.E.T. process consists of a set of short, but powerful techniques that are designed to transform the particular tension at hand and if necessary its roots.

These are the four steps:

  • Detect and face the tension.
  • Understand and solve the tension.
  • Embrace and transform the root of the tension.
  • Take action.

For all techniques there is special attention to:

  • Incorporating safety and security in order to avoid the creation of new tensions.
  • Short and powerful techniques that can be applied in any situation and are hence compatible with any business model.
  • Applicability for everybody (in other words, there is no need for a coaching background).

The consequence of being able to transform tensions is that the vibe is raised. Or at least that the vibe doesn’t fall down in change projects or when new ways of working like agile or self-organizing teams are introduced.

Ingredient 2: Compassionate Attitude

A compassionate attitude means a.o. perceiving other people as equivalent human beings and acting accordingly.

However, this is easier said than done.

The way work is organized we easily end up in situations that are not in balance. Because of hierarchy we usually find ourselves in a position of power or dependency. Even if we don’t want that.

This shows for example:

  • A co-worker who feels limited by a manager who needs to give his approval for every little thing.
  • The owner of a company who feels responsible for the employees and (unconsciously) steps into a parent-child relationship.

The consequence is that personal and interpersonal tensions arise that are in the way of fruitful cooperation and achieving results.

The challenge is how to deal with each other from a position of equivalence and compassion in the given situations with different roles and functions.

The lack of compassion for others usually has its origins in not being 100% compassionate towards ourselves.

This requires self-reflection and inquiries into blind spots, shadow sides and protective patterns that limit us (unconsciously).

Approach

Besides not knowing the right techniques to solve tensions, the three most important reasons why leaders, (agile) coaches, scrum masters, chapter/squad/tribe leads and other facilitators don’t always act in a compassionate way:

  1. There are too many distractions, too many situations and too many people that beg for their attention, including several that give them stress.
  2. There are hidden differences between them and other people that create misunderstandings and keep them away from their strength.
  3. There are protective patterns in their lives that keep them from being the most effective, efficient and inspiring leader they can be.

To solve this, we have developed the Compassionate Leader Program based on the Compassionate Leader Pathway that deals with these three reasons step by step (in 3 x 3 steps to be precise).

We use a.o. the short and powerful techniques of the D.U.E.T. model to increase the compassionate mindset and attitude. At the same time the participants learn how to apply these techniques with their own teams.

In other words, the Compassionate Leader Program brings everything together.

Two Kinds of Raise the Vibe Programs

To fill the needs of every leader and facilitator, there are two kinds of Raise the Vibe programs:

  • Compassionate Leader Program
  • Transforming Tensions Program

In short, the difference between both programs is:

  • Compassionate Leader Program:
    • Learning the techniques of the D.U.E.T. model to transform tensions.
    • Developing the compassionate mindset and attitude to be able to work from the inspiring vibe as a Compassionate Leader.
    • Discovering and transforming your own limiting patterns as leader, coach or facilitator.
    • Lots of room for your individual process and sharing of experiences with the other participants.
  • Transforming Tensions Program:
    • A shortened version of the Compassionate Leader Program with a focus on the techniques of the D.U.E.T. model (without the explicit personal development aspect).
    • There is both a group and a duo program. The last one is for who the dates in the calendar don’t fit their schedule.

Result

Compassionate Leader Program

After the Compassionate Leader Program you are able to apply the techniques of the D.U.E.T. process. This means that you will be able to:

  • Detect the vibe of an individual or team using the Vibe Assessment.
  • Perform the right interventions taking the vibe into account.
  • Calm down someone who feels limited, disadvantaged, not heard or not seen and show them new perspectives.
  • Address practical problems in a way that stays away from blaming others and motivates the people involved to work towards a solution. And facilitate others to use this approach amongst them.
  • Facilitate taking decisions in a fast and constructive way with buy-in from all people involved.
  • Support someone who experiences stress to get back into their personal power.
  • Mentor people in seeing the positive qualities behind negative behavior.
  • Detect patterns that cause conflicts between people. And support both yourself and others to transform them.
  • Discover blind spots and shadow sides that block a harmonious way of working together. And assist others in doing this for themselves as well.
  • Express yourself in a way that your needs and concerns are heard by others. And teach them how to do that themselves.
  • Support someone to discover their needs or concerns that are hidden below blaming, complaining or other negative behavior.
  • Communicate with others in a way that solves more tensions than create new ones.

You will also be able to:

  • Detect where you are a bottleneck for yourself, your team or your organization.
  • Clearly see your own limiting patterns, blind spots and shadow sides and embrace them with compassion.
  • Transform those barriers so you can be a support and catalyst in your organization instead of a bottleneck.
  • Approach every tension that arises in yourself or your team with a compassionate attitude.
  • Find your own “secure bases” that you can fall back in difficult situations.
  • Create psychological safety for yourself and your team so there is room to share wat is really going on instead of pretending and working on the wrong things.
  • Detect when someone needs more safety and support and when they need more encouragement to take a risk.
  • Feel more compassion for yourself and others. This allows you to bring yourself and your team to a higher level of performance and well-being.
  • Experience more freedom: live more from your own values, with less restrictions from others, in a more relaxed and fulfilled way.

Transforming Tensions Program

After the Transforming Tensions Program you are able to apply the techniques of the D.U.E.T. process. This means that you will be able to:

  • Detect the vibe of an individual or team using the Vibe Assessment.
  • Perform the right interventions taking the vibe into account.
  • Calm down someone who feels limited, disadvantaged, not heard or not seen and show them new perspectives.
  • Address practical problems in a way that stays away from blaming others and motivates the people involved to work towards a solution. And facilitate others to use this approach amongst them.
  • Facilitate taking decisions in a fast and constructive way with buy-in from all people involved.
  • Support someone who experiences stress to get back into their personal power.
  • Mentor people in seeing the positive qualities behind negative behavior.
  • Detect patterns that cause conflicts between people. And support both yourself and others to transform them.
  • Discover blind spots and shadow sides that block a harmonious way of working together. And assist others in doing this for themselves as well.
  • Express yourself in a way that your needs and concerns are heard by others. And teach them how to do that themselves.
  • Support someone to discover their needs or concerns that are hidden below blaming, complaining or other negative behavior.
  • Communicate with others in a way that solves more tensions than create new ones.

Facilitator

The facilitator of the Raise the Vibe programs is Jan Vermeiren.

Jan is the founder of the Compassionate Leader, author of the book with the same name and creator of amongst others the D.U.E.T. process and the Compassion Technique.

You can find more information about our mission, purpose, values and a candid view on Jan’s career on the About Us page.

Comparison of Programs

Compassionate Leader Group ProgramTransforming Tensions Group ProgramTransforming Tensions Duo Program
FocusBoth raise your own vibe (increase your Compassionate Leadership level) and facilitate others to raise their vibe (D.U.E.T. process).Primarily facilitate others to raise their vibe (D.U.E.T. process). In the process your Compassionate Leadership level will increase as well, but it is not the focus.Primarily facilitate others to raise their vibe (D.U.E.T. process). In the process your Compassionate Leadership level will increase as well, but it is not the focus.
Amount of participants4-124-82
Included
  • 3 x 2 days residential course (all inclusive)
  • 4 x 1 day live peer-to-peer review and practice sessions (not mandatory)
  • 2 personal coaching sessions
  • Access to online Training Center
  • Access to private LinkedIn group
  • 3 x 1 day course (all inclusive)
  • 2 half day peer review sessions
  • Access to online Training Center
  • Access to private LinkedIn group

Optional: personal coaching sessions

  • 6 x 1/2 day course
  • Access to online Training Center

Optional: participation in peer review group and personal coaching sessions

DatesFixed. See calendar.Fixed. See calendar.Flexible.
Fee (excl. VAT)
  • 4.500 euro
  • KMOP (small company, 30% subsidy): 3.300 euro
  • KMOP (medium sized company, 20% subsidy): 3.700 euro
  • 1.995 euro
  • KMOP (small company, 30% subsidy): 1.397 euro
  • KMOP (medium sized company, 20% subsidy): 1.596 euro
  • 2.995 euro
  • KMOP (small company, 30% subsidy): 2.097 euro
  • KMOP (medium sized company, 20% subsidy): 2.396 euro

All programs are organized in cooperation with Be The Wellbeing.

Interested?

If you are interested in the Transforming Tensions Group Program, you can register via the calendar.

For any of the other programs, get in touch!

In Company or Individual Program

All programs can be organized in house, also in an adapted format if needed. Or they can be translated in a personalized individual program. If you are interested in one of those options, contact us.

Taster

If you are not sure yet if a Raise the Vibe Program is the right thing for you: we happily answer all your questions.

Or you can participate in a one-day Compassionate Leader & Facilitator Experience to get to know us.