Raise the Vibe

Group, Duo or Individual Program

In order to deal with today’s challenges teams are preferably in an inspiring vibe. However, that is not always easy. The main reason is that people, including leaders and facilitators, don’t know how to compassionately deal with the tensions that arise. This includes both the daily tensions and the extra tensions from all the change (projects) that are happening.

When leaders or facilitators raise their Compassionate Leadership level and know how to apply the techniques to solve tensions and even transform them in opportunities for growth, the vibe can raise to the inspiring vibe. That is where results and well-being reinforce each other in an upward spiral.

For Whom

This program is for everybody who leads or facilitates other people.

This usually means one of these roles:

  • Leaders:
    • CEO’s
    • Business Owners
    • Managers
    • Product Owners
  • Facilitators
    • Coaches
    • Change/Transformation Managers
    • Agile Coaches
    • Scrum Masters
    • Happiness Officers
    • HR Business Partners
    • Chapter Leads
    • Project Managers


Three of the most overlooked reasons why teams and organizations are not as successful as they could be are:

  • The vibe of a team.
  • The inability to properly deal with tensions.
  • Not knowing the bonding cycle.

Let’s explore them briefly.


There are four vibes:

  • Negative: people complain, blame others and are defensive.
  • Neutral: the job gets done, but not much more.
  • Positive: people are enthusiastic and work towards goals, but the full potential is not reached yet.
  • Inspiring: there is a contagious excitement and focus on both results and well-being.

If people are not at least in the positive vibe, they are not ready to embrace change (yet) and really commit to the project.


There are three kinds of tensions:

  • Practical or process: for example, the order and shipping processes are not optimally aligned, data input takes a long time since it is done manually, meetings take forever because there is no structured approach, co-workers get sick a lot because of open doors or malfunctioning air-conditioning systems, etc.
  • Personal: for example, I don’t feel able to do what is expected of me, I have low self-esteem, I feel resistance to change, I hate public speaking, etc.
  • Interpersonal: for example, I don’t get along with a colleague, manager, customer, supplier; have fights with them or feel uncomfortable in their company, etc.

The less people are able to properly deal with tension, the lower the vibe they are in.

Bonding Cycle

The four phases of the bonding cycle are: attach, bond, separate and grief.

For any change (project) this means that people have to separate from the old situation in order to attach and bond to the new one.

The phase that is usually forgotten is the grief phase. When there is not enough space, time and the proper attention, people can get stuck there. The result is that they are not engaged and committed to the new situation.

When a change project is implemented, two things usually happen:

  • The existing reality is magnified because extra tensions are added to the current situation.
  • Since most people don’t know how to properly deal with tensions, the vibe decreases and people get temporarily or permanent stuck in the grief phase of the bonding cycle.


Today’s world is full of changes. However, 70% of the change projects don’t reach their goals (according to management consulting firm McKinsey).

In order to increase the chance that a change project is successful, the current reality needs to be dealt with first.

In other words: first make sure that the team can deal with tensions so their vibe is at least in the positive vibe. Only then implement a change project.

Or the other way around: when the vibe is high enough, results will follow automatically. Then drastic change projects might be not necessary anymore.

However, change is a given. Whether it is about a smaller change or a more impactful one, teams that know how to deal with tensions, are able to stay in their current vibe. They don’t follow the usual path of a vibe decline that causes decreased results and lower morale.

There are two ingredients of the solution:

  • The D.U.E.T. framework with techniques to transform the tension.
  • A specific attitude to facilitate the process: Compassionate Leadership.

Ingredient 1: D.U.E.T. Process

The four-step D.U.E.T. process consists of a set of techniques that are designed to transform the particular tension at hand and if necessary its roots.

These are the four steps:

  • Detect and face the tension.
  • Understand and solve the tension.
  • Embrace and transform the root of the tension.
  • Take action.

The consequence of being able to transform tensions is that the vibe wil rise. Or when there are lots of new tensions due to a change project, the vibe won’t go down.

Ingredient 2: Compassionate Leadership

Our definition of Compassionate Leadership is:

“The ability to take individuals, teams and organizations to a higher vibe, meaning a higher level of performance and well-being, in a safe and stimulating way when tensions occur.”

This is usually a bit more challenging than it sounds because most leaders and facilitators don’t know how to effectively and efficiently deal with tensions themselves. For most people this also means some self-reflection, letting go of old habits and (unconscious) uncompassionate behavior and acquiring new skills and abilities.


In order to combine increasing the level of Compassionate Leadership and learning how to facilitate transforming tensions via the D.U.E.T. process, we have developed the Compassionate Leader Pathway.

In the Compassionate Leader Pathway there are three stages which each consist of three steps.

Stage 1: Weaken the Power of the Rat Race Magnet

One of the reasons why people, including leaders and facilitators, are not in their natural state of compassion whole the time, is that there is the phenomenon called the “rat race”. That rat race has a powerful magnet that draws us into it.

So, the first thing to do is to weaken the power of that magnet, so we are not pulled in that hard. As a result, it is easier to be in our own center where we can support other people: offer them the psychological safety they need and stimulate them to grow.

The three steps of this first stage are:

  • Release stress.
    • Problem addressed: you feel personal and interpersonal tensions. For example the efforts you do for others are not seen or valued. Or you are not able to reach the goals you have set for yourself. This results in stress.
    • Solution: apply techniques like the Compassion Technique and the ABCs of De-Stressing. As a result there is more peace and space for new insights and solutions.
  • Get centered.
    • Problem addressed: sometimes you feel overwhelmed by everything that is going on in your job, in your personal life and in the world.
    • Solution: apply a technique that gets you centered. The consequence is that it becomes easier to show your strength both in daily life and in difficult moments like when there are frictions between team members.
  • Solve problems.
    • Problem addressed: others complain, but don’t provide a solution. Or the solutions that you offer are not accepted or executed by others.
    • Solution: use Compassionate Problem Solving. This technique ensures that problems are solved by the people involved in a fast, harmonious and committed way.

After the first stage the power of the rat race magnet has decreased. This gives space to explore the underlying reasons why communication isn’t always successful and how we can improve relationships.

Stage 2: Improve Relationships

The three steps of the second stage are:

  • Detect your “secure bases”.
    • Problem addressed: sometimes it feels lonesome at the top or you are in doubt when you have to take decisions.
    • Solution: secure bases can support you in difficult moments and stimulate you to pursue your goals. This increases your own strength, makes it easier to be available for others (without having to free up a lot of time) and is very inspiring for team member.
  • See the world from other perspectives.
    • Problem addressed: when people work together misunderstandings happen. That is often very frustrating. Especially when you notice you don’t really understand others, but have to get going with a project.
    • Solution: in this step you will receive insights in the (hidden) causes of misunderstandings by using Compassion Quadrants and another technique. This allows to get the sting out of conflicts between team members or departments and gives way to constructively looking for a solution. You will learn to discover the positive intentions behind the behavior of people, even when that is negative. This knowledge helps to focus on these positive qualities and lift your team members to a higher vibe.
  • Connect meaningfully.
    • Problem addressed: it is sometimes hard to voice your intentions, needs or concerns (or at least others don’t seem to grasp them). Or you hear someone else venting or putting a problem on your plate, but not making clear what they actually want.
    • Solution: apply Compassionate Communication. On the one hand this means being able to voice your needs and concerns in a way they are heard by others. On the other hand this means that you can detect the real needs and concerns from others and voice this in a way that improves the relationship. Often they don’t know their own needs and pursue the wrong goals. Goals that don’t give them energy, but exhaust them. By applying Compassionate Communication tensions are not piled up. The results are that the morale stays high and that opportunities for growth are discovered faster.

Stage 3: Create Room for Growth

Having secure bases gives strength. Insights in the dynamics of human behavior plus the techniques to communicate in a constructive way lead to more compassion and better relationships.

This is a good foundation for the third stage: creating room for growth. In this stage enough safety is required. That has been built up in the two previous stages. Creating room for growth means inner exploration to discover which blind spots limit you in one way or the other.

The three steps of this stage are:

  • Discover protective patterns.
    • Problem addressed: you feel that you oppose yourself when trying to reach your goals or when communicating with people.
    • Solution: we use Compassion Quadrants to find patterns that are not useful anymore and other causes that limit us (unconsciously). This is an important step, because we can only change what we are aware of.
  • Transform underlying hurts and roots.
    • Problem addressed: the “internal saboteur” is usually a pattern that wants to keep us safe. However, it is not always a constructive pattern.
    • Solution: the hurts and roots that were the cause of the limiting patterns are transformed using the Inner Balance Technique. As a result, energy is liberated that is now available to support you to reach your goals in a faster and more relaxed way.
  • Enjoy freedom. In this last step you will enjoy more freedom by:
    • Being less limited by unconscious patterns or blind spots.
    • Being less triggered by the behavior of other people.
    • Being able to live more from your own strength, goals and ideals.
    • Having more fulfilling relationships at work and at home.

In other words, at the end of the program you will be more joyful and more efficient, both at work and at home (you can apply all the techniques in your personal environment as well). You will also be able to support your team to a higher vibe because you are now able to facilitate them in applying all the techniques of the D.U.E.T. process (which are interwoven with other exercises in the Compassionate Leader Pathway).

Three kinds of programs

In order to cater to every leader or facilitator’s needs, there are three kinds of “Raise the Vibe” programs:

  • Compassionate Leader Group Program
  • Transforming Tensions Duo Program
  • Individual Program

Compassionate Leader Group Program

The focus of the group program is on both:

  • Raising your own vibe (increasing your Compassionate Leadership level).
  • Learning how to facilitate others how to raise their vibe (by applying the techniques from the D.U.E.T. process).

This is included in the group program:

  • 3 x 2 days residential course (all inclusive: lodging, meals, drinks, snacks).
  • 2 personal coaching sessions.
  • Access to the peer review group during one year:
    • 4 x 1 day live (included: lunch, drinks, snacks).
    • 1 online session per month.
  • Access to the online Training Center.
  • Access to the private LinkedIn group.

We work with small groups (4 -12 participants) and live cases of the participants.


  • 4.500 euro (excl. VAT) per participant
  • Flemish companies can receive subsidies via the KMO Portefeuille. Small companies receive 40% subsidies, medium-sized companies 30% on the amount exclusive lodging and catering over 25 euro per day. This means:
    • Small companies: 40% of 4.000 euro + 500 euro lodging and catering = 2.900 euro (excl. VAT).
    • Medium sized companies: 30% of 4.000 euro + 500 euro lodging and catering = 3.300 euro (excl. VAT)

There is an intake procedure for the Raise the Vibe group program. On the one hand this is used to check whether or not the program is in line with your expectations. On the other hand to make sure that you are in group with people who have also the desire to grow and are open for self-reflection.

The steps are:

  1. You fill out the intake form.
  2. We will have a telephone call to answer any remaining questions and together make the decision if this is the right program for you.

Transforming Tensions Duo Program

The Transforming Tensions Duo Program is a special kind of group program. There are only two participants in this program. You can apply for it with someone you know or you can ask us to find a match.

The focus of the duo program is on learning how to facilitate others how to raise their vibe by transforming tensions (by applying the techniques from the D.U.E.T. process). Your Compassionate Leadership level will raise as well by doing the exercises, but that is not the focus of this program.

This is included in the duo program:

  • 6 halve day sessions.
  • Access to the online Training Center.
  • Optional (not included in the fee):
    • Access to the peer review group:
      • 4 x 1 day live per year (included: lunch, drinks, snacks).
      • 1 online session per month.
    • Personal coaching sessions.


  • 2.995 euro (excl. VAT) per participant
  • Flemish companies can receive subsidies via the KMO Portefeuille. Small companies receive 40% subsidies, medium-sized companies 30% on the amount exclusive lodging and catering over 25 euro per day. This means:
    • Small companies: 1.797 euro (excl. VAT).
    • Medium sized companies: 2.097 euro (excl. VAT)

There is an intake procedure for the Raise the Vibe duo program. This is used to check whether or not the program is in line with your expectations.

The steps are:

  1. You fill out the intake form.
  2. If you don’t have someone who wants to do this program with you, we will look for a good match with another individual.
  3. We will have a telephone call to answer any remaining questions and fix the dates.

Individual Program

The individual Raise the Vibe program is a tailor-made program.

It depends on your focus and expectations what the contents and the length of the program will be. We use an intake form and a telephone call to determine that.

The steps are:

  1. You fill out the intake form.
  2. We will have a telephone call to discuss your requests.
  3. A proposal is made.
  4. After you have accepted the proposal we will have a call to fix the dates.


The facilitator of the Raise the Vibe programs is Jan Vermeiren.

Jan is the founder of the Compassionate Leader, author of the book with the same name and creator of amongst others the D.U.E.T. process and the Compassion Technique.

You can find more information about our mission, purpose, values and a candid view on Jan’s career on the About Us page.

Comparison of Programs

Compassionate Leader Group ProgramTransforming Tensions Duo ProgramIndividual Program
FocusBoth raise your own vibe (increase your Compassionate Leadership level) and facilitate others to raise their vibe (D.U.E.T. process).Primarily facilitate others to raise their vibe (D.U.E.T. process). In the process your Compassionate Leadership level will increase as well, but it is not the focus.Your choice.
Amount of participants4-1221
  • 3 x 2 days residential course (all inclusive)
  • 4 x 1 day live peer-to-peer review and practice sessions (all inclusive)
  • Monthly online peer review session
  • 2 personal coaching sessions
  • Access to online Training Center
  • Access to private LinkedIn group
  • 6 x halve a day
  • Access to online Training Center

Optional: participation in peer review group and personal coaching sessions

Personalized program.
DatesFixed. See calendar.Flexible.Flexible.
Fee (excl. VAT)
  • 4.500 euro
  • KMOP (small company, 40% subsidy): 2.900 euro
  • KMOP (medium sized company, 30% subsidy): 3.300 euro
  • 2.995 euro
  • KMOP (small company, 40% subsidy): 1.797 euro
  • KMOP (medium sized company, 30% subsidy): 2.097 euro
Depends on the length of the personalized program.

All programs are organized in cooperation with Be The Wellbeing.


If you are interested in one of the programs, get in touch!